Check back soon for more detailed data and evidence.

The book is based on evidence such as:

• Studies from the 1920s to the 1990s showing that in the preschool years, girls are more interested in dance and boys in balls and rough-and-tumble play. These differences begin to appear before the age of 2.

• At puberty, when estrogen levels soar, there is a ‘marked rise’ in the female preference for cooperation over competition and an ‘increasing gender gap’ between boys and girls in their participation in competitive sports.

• Men get a chemical high from winning; women get one from nursing.

• Seven percent of women engaged in casual sex report being extremely satisfied physically and only 11 percent are extremely physically satisfied even when they expect the relationship with partners to be a long one. But 41 percent of married women say they are extremely satisfied with their sex lives. Women report that marital sex is the best they ever had, and far more regularly than men, they say the sex is better two years after marriage than it was on the honeymoon.

• The most sexually experienced single women, while still believing that casual sex is fine, find that their feelings do not cooperate. They come to feel used, hurt and demeaned after sleeping with men uninterested in relationships.

• Rhoads’ national survey finds that even the most progressive male faculty members provide less than half of their families’ baby and toddler care. In fact, less than 3 percent of male faculty say they do more child care than their spouses, whereas 96 percent of female faculty say they do more.

• A 1997 Pew Research Center survey of women found that 93 percent of mothers regard their children as a source of happiness all or most of the time and 90 percent say the same about their marriage. But only 60 percent of working women find their careers a source of happiness all or most of the time.

• More than twice as many women nearing 40 are unmarried today (28 percent) compared with 1960 (13 percent). As recently as 1980, only 9 percent of women in their early 40s had not had a child; now the number is 16 percent — “a truly staggering rise, given the statistics on women’s happiness and priorities.”

© 2004 Steven E. Rhoads
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